It's hard and the road is thorny.
Everyone needs it, but few people who understand how to work with the psyche in practice. A complex huge amount of information at the intersection of medicine, psychology, science and religion. And how to determine what is the problem here, what is the norm, and how to help. Mankind has some achievements, there are oriental meditation techniques, there are various prayer practices, there are practices of awareness, there are education systems, there is psychology as a university and practical science with manipulation techniques, there is a simple level: “... you want to talk about it ...? ” You can go “from below”, Sigmund Freud suggested from there, you can add an analysis of archetypes and psychoanalysis from Karl Jung, etc.

150 years ago, humanity lived easier, the problems were tougher and ruthless, the society also had a rigid structure of social roles and a well-defined system of religious values. Nobody paid attention to psychological problems, there was neither time nor opportunity. Psychiatric diseases were also completely incomprehensible and terrible experiments were carried out with such patients in Western medical culture. It seems that the main problem was lack of freedom.

And so we freed ourselves from the terrible fetters of the past, and we got the right to decide for the most part our fate, and we are no longer limited by the old system of values, society has lost its rigid structure, it is amorphous, almost everything is allowed. And we faced ourselves face to face, without embellishment. Increased number of people with mental disorders? We do not know. These statistics are very young. In the past, there was a completely different diagnosis, many pathological conditions were classified as "bad character", "hysteria", etc. We do not have accurate data. But the problems are both old and new. And we do not know the exact solutions, although now we know much more. Therefore, awareness can be the main helper for both ourselves and patients. Success in this field of knowledge strongly depends on frankness even with oneself, the intellect and level of personality of the psychologist, as well as on the level of development of intuition in all participants. And to the naked mercilessness you need to add a huge dose of sympathy and goodwill, otherwise instead of help there will be a complete defeat and severe depression.

Something to think about:

Childhood and youth have passed, you are an adult, and how independent are you and what decisions do you make? Who is the boss in the house? Are you sure you know your brain and you are its master? Or is it exactly the opposite? An incredibly complex, economical and efficient computer easily manages the complex regulatory processes of your body, which you have no idea about, even if you have a medical or biological background. It works as an autonomous security system, self-activates and relaxes, starts nightly recovery and archiving processes in several levels and orders. The brain perceives chemical and all types of electro-magnetic information, it creates complex biomechanical algorithms and optimizes them all the time. We, the crown of creation, but we are not able to even approximately comprehend the work of the brain within ourselves. But we solve issues at the level of what to buy in the store, how to change clothes according to the weather and where to go on the weekend, and more complicated “where to go on vacation” ... Your brain has its own life, and your personality has its own and they are not identical and not equal.

The brain constantly deceives us, more precisely, he acts in the way that is most optimal from his point of view, solving the problems most economically and quickly in order to preserve the "brain + body (we)" system. He does not consider it necessary to inform us of this. For example, a poor young man after university wants to stay in the capital, or in another state, but there is no possibility. And then suddenly love, and even what! To a girl from a good family, with citizenship and registration ... But true love! Flaming, with all its beautiful details! A few years later, a divorce. The brain offered a simple and quick solution, other options were more complex, painful and costly, and that there was no feeling of “ugly marriage of convenience” there was love! Or, for example, a provincial girl who wants a beautiful and interesting life, but there are no opportunities. And again, love, a fiery love for a non-poor elderly businessman. Why is love then? For the same reason, as telling yourself that “it's all for the money” is very painful, this is the courtesan’s path, but what about a decent girl? A severe moral crisis will arise - a state with a large expenditure of energy is bad. But the brain will help and find a way out of the crisis, and put into the background all that is unnecessary. And in the foreground will put forward a solid positive. The consequences will be, but later.

In the event of a threat of a strong destructive or energy-intensive moral conflict, our brain will find us a worthy justification and help. This mechanism works perfectly during wars and revolutions, when with good intentions robbery is carried out under the slogans of the expropriation of values. That is why terrible things have been done all our history with the best of intentions, and wars of conquest are surely sacred, they used to carry faith, now they carry democracy. This mechanism of manipulation with the common people is perfectly and cynically owned by all the power structures in the world.

Our brain solves problems quickly and efficiently. But these are instant tasks, and he does not automatically work with issues of the development of our personality and soul in the future. Here we need our personal conscious voluntary work. Otherwise, problems with autonomous brain solutions cannot be avoided.

Optimality, economy and efficiency is the main technology of survival. This is true for all living and nonliving in the universe. And our human personality, consciousness and soul, if you will, do not always obey the laws of natural logic, moreover, they basically contradict it, and the older the society, the more.
For example, the continuation of the genus. The most effective method of obtaining strong genes for reproduction is the physical elimination of weak rivals, and for the female - copulation with the maximum number of males. In both cases, the strongest genes will win. That's just from the point of view of modern society, it is indecent.
From a biological point of view, nursing premature babies or in vitro fertilization greatly weaken the human species. But from the point of view of modern human consciousness, this is a manifestation of humanism.

The main thing in the world is energy, for example, getting energy from food in the most effective way: a predator preys on the sick and weak, with less effort it receives more food - energy. We are not predators, but pay attention to how easily potatoes, yeast dough and sugar took root on our table, and uncontrolled eating of sweets became a disaster. And why? Because this is the most efficient way to receive a large amount of energy, for this our reward from the brain is very large. Here it is - a quick effective way, which today is the cause of the growth of diabetes, obesity, etc., but it all started with efficiency. Therefore, awareness of these chains of connections is so important.

Whose control?
So you jumped away from the car that sprayed you, almost automatically, your brain in tenths of a second:

• received and analyzed the video signal
• perceived and analyzed the scale
• classified danger
• determined the location of objects in space
• appreciated the speed of the approaching danger
• measured and evaluated several exit options and the situation with measuring distances and assessing obstacles on the path chosen for maneuver
• chose a sequence of motor skills he had developed (he spent all his previous life on this)
• included both sequential and simultaneous action of tens of muscles with his chosen strength
• turned on feedback control when you moved, because the complex of movements must work in concert, and must be quickly modified (biological direct and feedback)
• evaluated the result and added an adjustment followed by the same chain to change the trajectory of movement
• as a result, you stand a meter away from the sidewalk edge, facing the roadway, covering your trousers with a bag, but you did not take a personal part in all of the above, you are a body. Because your “human person = your consciousness”, only now managed to get scared. After the fact time! During the event, it didn’t have time for almost anything..

Problem awareness:

this is a very difficult moment and it often provokes the mistakes of unprofessional "psychologists", coaches, personal growth trainers, (they all multiply like mushrooms in rainy weather), as well as parents, spouses, etc. From their point of view, the subject has a problem that they “clearly see”. And they impose their help, forgetting that before submitting advice, must first hear a request for help and, in addition, get a credit of trust.

Ask yourself:

• do you understand that you have a problem? which one? call it yourself, at least describe it in words?
• is there any real willingness to start solving it?
• do you call for help or not?
• are you ready to talk seriously and confidentially?
• to what level of frankness are you ready to rise or fall?
• maybe you just need to "dump the load" and it will be enough to "talk about it"?
• Is this psychologist, coach enough?

The mechanism of formation of chronic diseases (physical and at the mental level, too):

The brain always works as a security system and maintains a constant internal environment (maintaining homeostasis). You ate salty, chemoreceptors sent a signal to the brain, the brain sent you to drink water to bring the concentration of ions to the average norm. This is a natural mechanism.

For example, moderate back pain. The brain will again go the shortest way to ensure homeostasis. Within 2-3 weeks:

• pain will decrease, often without therapy
• without your willful participation, postures for standing, sitting and sleeping will be adjusted
• without your strong-willed participation, the pelvis will be skewed to reduce pressure on the painful side
• without your strong-willed participation, muscle protection in the pain zone will be included
• the brain will record a new condition as homeostasis suitable for use
• in a month only an experienced eye will see a change in your gait
• then you will live with increasing exacerbations of the disease, but the acute problem, which took a lot of energy, will be compensated for some time
• a long chronic condition may end in severe decompensation and a breakdown of balance (this is a catastrophic scenario), or maybe there will be no disaster and you will have enough of such health “with a limp” for life

Those. “It’s not enough strength, immunity is a little lame, and we won’t get involved in the war until the end, let the bad world be better than a good quarrel” - this is how our brain saves energy.
Therefore, in the treatment of chronic diseases, you need to spend a lot of effort on working with the resistance of a system that is already used to such a state like "and so good!".

This is how Chinese medicine understands the influence of mental factors on health and the mechanism of self-aggression (based on the theory of five elements):

• Happiness (wood) accumulates in the liver, stimulates the heart and inhibits the spleen; as a result, the absorption of nutrients is impaired; it "drains water from the kidneys"
• Anger (fire) builds up in the heart, stimulates the spleen, depresses the lungs; as a result, the balance of water and breathing are disturbed; it "burns the liver wood"
• Anxiety (earth) accumulates in the spleen, stimulates the lungs, depresses the kidneys, as a result of which water balance, sexual function and memory are disturbed; "Anxiety littered the fire of the heart"
• Grief (metal) accumulates in the lungs, stimulates the kidneys, inhibits the liver, due to which blood circulation is disturbed and digestion is disturbed; grief "the earth of the spleen is damaged"
• Fear (water) accumulates in the kidneys, stimulates the liver, and depresses the heart, due to which the function of blood, blood circulation and the psyche are impaired; it "rusts the metal of the lungs"

Effects of Excess Qi (Energy):

• Excessive liver qi causes anger
• Excessive qi of heart causes concern
• Excessive spleen qi breeds grief
• Excessive qi of lungs breeds fear
• Excessive kidney qi breeds happiness